“Black Lives Matter” Means Black Women Too

As I scroll through the comments regarding Korryn Gaines, the young mother who was killed during a standoff in the presence of her five year old son, I am noticing an exhaustive amount of apathetic comments from black people. Mainly black men. These insensitive comments insist that Korryn Gaines “got what she deserved” and how her death isn’t moving because her actions determined her demise. Sifting through these comments I am reminded of the eerie similarities of the language to comments which I have seen from anti-black white people, time and time again, whenever an unarmed black man is killed by an officer. Blaming Korryn for her death because of the circumstances is just as bad as when black men are blamed for their own deaths by a cop. Freddie Gray was blamed for his own death. They tried to say he was responsible for breaking his own neck. Eric Garner was blamed for his own choking and Alton Sterling was blamed for his death because “supposedly” he was reaching for a gun. And of course we see this same narrative of victim blaming whenever instances such as this happen, but usually not from our own.

Black men are allowed to express how far they will go to protect their families. By any means necessary at that. A black woman whose residence is swarmed by S.W.A.T. with her child inside is attacked with victim blaming rhetoric because “she may have” pointed a gun at intruding officers. Obviously, I think we all can agree that we wish this situation could have been handled better, but that does not negate the fearlessness and bravery that this woman Korryn Gaines showed unapologetically. She didn’t give in to a system that probably would have killed her regardless if she was armed or not. Her courage is admirable. Her love for her children was admirable. Her son will never forget how his mother taught him to be fearless and not be afraid of or to trust an agency that was not created to protect him. She was his protector.

Had Korryn Gaines been a man, I do believe the language used in regards to this tragic situation would have been completely different. Black men would have been immortalizing the man as a hero just as they did Micah Johnson after the Dallas Police Shooting. Vigilance against oppression apparently is something only a black man can administer and is stupidity if enacted by a woman. Black Lives Matter means women too. If black women are always there for black men when they are shot down, we expect the same solidarity to be shown to us when it is us getting murdered. Black women too feel the need to protect themselves and our children, by any means necessary. We too matter in case you’ve forgotten.


Image via https://www.facebook.com/korryn.gaines

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Stop Having Sex With Black People

I have noticed a trend of white people who like to have sex with black people never actually show their solidarity with black people when shit gets real. It’s like they can fuck us unapologetically but can’t stand up and speak out for us unapologetically. Frankly, I’m sick of it. I’m sick of seeing my white friends with mixed babies ignoring the racist realities of this country that are plaguing the black community. I’m sick of white people fetishizing black bodies when they’re laying up with them and then continuing to objectify black bodies as they lay bleeding in the streets due to a trigger happy racial profiling cop by justifying that officer’s actions. Or just completely ignoring the tragedy altogether.

I am tired of white men expressing their attraction to me but then getting uncomfortable when I start discussing race relations. You don’t get the luxury of trying to sleep with me and telling me what I can and can’t talk about. Fuck being “colorblind.” Colorblindness is a dangerous and oppressive concept that us black people don’t get to enjoy the privilege of experiencing. We have to be on guard at all times because the color of our skin can become our death sentence. It disturbs me how someone can be unashamed to be in a relationship with a black person or produce children with them but be ashamed to post or share anything pertaining to the ongoing mistreatment of blacks in this country.

What could possibly be so difficult about acknowledging police brutality and racism? Or better question, why is it so simple to condemn and criticize those who speak out against it? So you can hop in bed with a black person but can’t post #BlackLivesMatter one time for the gram? How infuriating and insulting this is. Also, for the record, sleeping with a black person and having mixed kids doesn’t mean you aren’t racist.

Get familiar with racial microaggressions. Real quick. Real fucking quick. 

You are part of the problem because of your blatant disregard to our plight and your children’s plight. Yes your children are biracial/mixed but will ultimately be seen as black. Stop raising those babies to not want to identify with the people they will be associated with by default. You’re creating more people who will stand for black oppression when you do that. More people who are anti-black. More people who will associate blacks with negative stereotypes. We don’t wan’t nor need those. We need more Jesse Williams’s.

If you have no interest in taking down white supremacy and eradicating racism, please for the love of God, stop fucking us!